Unconnected.

Well, maybe this is bit more than a self help or something else.

It’s personal dialogue.

I’ve had countless relationships.

Many Many friends been with me.

I tried to forge relationships thinking someone would click, someone would think like I think.

I just hope this poem depicts its true possible thoughts which I have now.

It’s an Extempore type thing.

I had dinners and lunches with you

But, my appetite for intimacy wasn’t there with you.

I don’t know.

Why I couldn’t click with you.

Just our thoughts always ended in a different way.

You’ll always praised for my thinking and my words.

You liked my manners and etiquettes.

But, at the end of day.

We couldn’t connect.

I could make you laugh.

And,

I could also make you stare in my eyes for quite long.

But, still we couldn’t stare at each other’s perspectives.

I know you liked me.

I thought you were good too.

But, how could I compromise with my values.

I know you did realise that I was right.

I thought rightly and deeply.

But, when time came for you to think deeply and practice it diligently.

You ran away.

And, how could I say.

That, I loved you.

When you ran away from those values that I valued the most.

Yes. I could have got a title.

That we’re couples.

But, how long?

How long are disagreements would surface and make us come in reality again.

And,

Tell us on our face that we’re not made for each other.

How late it would be.

Yes, it’s tough for me to leave you.

Maybe I won’t have no one to talk and to go out with.

But, Is loneliness better or False love?

I know that you would remain single and do remember me for whom I was.

Maybe come into another relationship and still see how good I was.

But, it was never about who was superior.

Always about who could connect.

I thought after you.

That someone else would connect but the only thing connected was similarity between you and her.

I don’t know why I think like this.

Why I don’t compromise and stay happy with whatever I get.

But, why should I?

Maybe I would be happy.

If,

Just if you could think the way I think, believe on what I believe and feel like I feel.

But, now.

I’m tired.

Having failed in so many unconnected relations.

I finally want to do something good with my life.

And,

Yes. I will look for someone.

With whom I know how it feels to be connected.

Like Moon and Earth.

Always far but still connected through an invisible force.

The force that no human could ever reckon with


P.S

I don’t know if this makes sense or not.

But, this has been my life.

I have had many relationships.

But, always felt unconnected.

I don’t know who’s strange the world or me.

Image credits : other perspectives.

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Parallel Reality.

In every other post I used to write without organising my thoughts and all.

Maybe then someone told me to write bit after thinking.

So. Yes, I think.

I should give importance to my writings now on.

It wouldn’t be an Extempore type thing from now on.

Phew. Quite a lot Justification.

Now, This topic is really close to my heart.

Just because I was researching for quite a long time.

And.

This is one of the most significant studies in my personal renaissance.

Why I chose this topic?

Well. You just see. Where you are going to be now, this will certainly take you into a different world.

You will start questioning your beliefs and thinking.

Maybe I’m too confident about this.

Well, I am.

Now, let’s begin.

What really is parallel reality?

That’s a tough thing to tell.

But, how about a image.

First see it.

Well. I must remind you that I’m not going to take this post to some astronomical or universe thing.

I’m going to relate it hugely with human cognitive psychology.

Means how his mind interpret things and how his perceptions and imagination clouds reality.

Now, the image.

Did you see the lady here?

She’s dreaming.

And, in that dream she’s entering a different set of world.

I must say dreams are one of the most seductive things you’ll ever have.

And at the same time most fearful objects also.

Dreams happen in our sleep.

Right?

But, what about day dreaming.

Well this is where my blog post starts.

The imagination power of your brain is the way that you enter parallel reality.

This takes me to the real aspect.

How parallel reality is created?

To be honest.

It’s just practice.

When you start imagining things day and day out, you start associating yourself with it.

As days pass your association starts developing more and more.

With this your subconscious mind starts accepting this imagination to be your reality.

Now, this is tough to understand without examples.

Surely I will have few examples.

So, you’re browsing your favourite clothing brand online.

And. When you see a perfect dress.

You imagine that you’ll look nice.

You’ll look perfect.

Doesn’t that imagination happen?

Then at that moment you’re going to a parallel reality.

Why I say so?

Just because you’vent worn that dress neither you have seen it with your eyes in front of yourself but you still can percieve it in your imagination.

Isn’t it that thing going into different world and then wearing it dress.

Just because in reality your not wearing that dress.

And, when that dress comes you find not upto mark.

This is a daily life example.

So.

Now, There are aspects related to this thing.

And, I would be as electic as possible.

We’ll walk down various paths and will see every thing which we daily do from an open and clear view.

So, let’s hope.

You don’t questioning your reality.

First, comes.

Career.

In this aspect, you should never make your career choice based on your imagination.

Just because it will ruin your life.

The more fantasies you have regarding a particular career the more likely you’re going to follow.

Have you read that story?

Where a bagpiper plays his pipe and all rats fall off the cliff just because they thought that music to be enticing.

Same happens regarding career.

You get so enticed with imagining yourself in that particular field that you completely miss yourself.

You forget what you like.

What you are good at.

And, start following a career just because imagination keeps you running on it.

The glamour of authority.

The smell of what things money can buy.

And.

The fallacy that you would be happy after that dream come true.

On this course many students fail, many waste their years and then they realise that’s something they choose it wrongly.

But, it’s quite late.

Isn’t it?

Indian parents and students, I would say are perfect examples here.

Now.

Let’s move to Society and Relationships.

Our relationships and the society we live in.

Yes.

We know that we’re imaginative.

But, don’t you think others are imaginative as well.

Maybe less or more than you.

So, how about their imagination affecting you?

I want to say that how about their parallel reality affecting your life.

Let’s take an example here as well.

An image I have.

(The girl who drew it is Nameera )

Now, I would like to interpret this image. (interpretation is mine 😅)

So, in this image you can see three different things of a single girl.

Initially the girl is getting abused or ridiculed by her parents.

This happens daily.

Her parents feed her with negative thoughts, affirmations and what not.

They abuse her, slap her.

Daily this happens.

But, why her parents do so?

Just because her parents are not satisfied with her.

She can’t keep up with their parallel reality.

The parents want her girl to be studious and smart.

They want her to be extroverted and talented like other girls.

But,she can’t fulfil any of their aspirations.

She can’t fulfil her parents dreams.

And. With this,

In the second side, when she is idle and reflects on it.

Her mind starts accepting all the abuses, all the negative things.

She starts accepting those things.

And, you can see how her brain dynamics change in the third side of image.

You can see how the colours of the brain has changed and how those things have become a burden.

Her heart is taken off and there’s a patch of emptiness there.

And, now her reality is nothing but her parents abuses.

Well, this image reminded me of my personal story.

Where I was ridiculed by my teachers and parents when I was really small.

I still remember those times, when I small boy was lost in thought and imagination.

Reflecting on various aspects of life except studying.

But, somehow I started to study and abuses started to end.

Still, critics are there, but I dont care now.

If I take this concept to Relationships then there’s also some friction.

Where one partner has different imagination and another partner has different thing on mind.

So, when these imaginations collide.

Relationship break.

Body – Shamming. Divorces. Domestic Violence are few examples I can reflect upon.

Well, here I would say how you overcome their’s imagination.

Just because they’re comparing you with an imaginative female body where everything is fine.

Where you have zero spots on face.

No hair on body.

Perfect figure.

Tall and sleek.

They create a parallel reality of women.

And.

That parallel reality when stands face to face with Real reality.

Then you have abuses.

That’s what I can say.

Now, third aspect.

It’s that of Sexuality and Romance.

Now, the trouble is here.

I’ve been researching about Male Sexual Behavior for the last few days.

And.

I came upto this thing.

What i observed that Tina when she’s on my retina she’s a normal woman, a woman who is human like I am, she has same skin as mine, she has same hair as mine but the moment she is away from retina and goes to my imagination she becomes something else, she becomes an object, something perfect, something enticing.

(this is a excerpt from a story)

Why this happens?

That’s the whole topic.

Parallel reality.

Our imaginations are deceptive.

They create a different version of everything.

That’s why I tell you all that never imagine people and associate themselves in that imagination.

You would create a different story out of it.

Objectification starts.

And, just see how companies earn money through your parallel reality.

But, even if I know that I’m imagining.

I find it addictive.

I find it seductive.

Why?

Dopamine is the answer.

It is called the pleasure chemical.

When you start taking pleasure in your imagination then this chemical starts to rise and you fall in the trap.

You start having fantasies which are so different and away from reality that.

There’s no away to get you back on track.

This pleasure chemical is what creates objectification and lust.

I don’t want to blame dopamine because it’s necessary, but the mind which pairs this chemical with body of a human.

Pornography is the perfect way of deluding you.

A 2 dimensional video makes this dopamine crazy.

Anyways.

These days Instagram and Facebook images have taken you to parallel reality as well.

Now, question here arises.

If imagination and its advancement to Parallel reality is that negative.

Is it bad to have imagination?

Absolutely not.

Imagination is something which brings creativity.

And creativity is that thing which differentiates between you and me.

Everyone is different in his/her imagination.

All these Movie directors, painters, poets are imaginative people.

It’s because of imagination only that you can forsee things.

Now,

What really should we do?

This is a great confusion.

Because imagination is necessary and but it creates a parallel reality which isn’t good.

I think imagination should always be kept under control of intellect.

Under always the influence of thinking.

The pros and cons.

I will show you how.

Whenever imagination comes think whether it leads to fantasies or fears.

If it leads then, stop there.

If you don’t stop you’ll enter a parallel reality which is really seductive and disrupting.

Why this contradiction?

Why reality and imagination.

Are poles apart.

See this photo.

Leandro da Vinci’s Mona Lisa.

Meditate her on smile.

She’s the western perspective of Yin and yang.

Her smile is seductive and compassionate at same time.

She bears hope and fear at same time.

That’s also reality.

Reality is nothing but present time.

And what adds dimension of time to it is your parallel reality.

Reality is nothing but ambiguity and uncertainty.

And what hope to your reality is not imagination but your work.

There is no dream which can satisfy you, there’s only work that can.

Yes. You use your imagination for your work.

Create mind maps, create graphs in your mind.

Calculate visually.

Remember visually.

Write poems.

Make stories and documentaries.

Yes, be creative.

But, don’t create fantasies and fears.

That’s what Parallel reality does.

It will entice you, keep you in suffering and misery.

The day you break it.

Then you really are free.


P.S

I Have a Questionnaire.

1)What are your fantasies (dark/light) ?

2)What are your fears?

3)Do you question your parallel reality ?

4)Have you noted your feelings when you imagine?

And last question.

5) In, which reality are you living? (Real/Parallel)

These questions are for reflection towards your life.

Think about them.

Image credits : Google Images.

Just adding a “Name” to it.

Well.

Good Morning to those who live in same time zone.

So, I had an incident to share.

Maybe why I thought of writing a post on it was just the commonality of it.

Okay.

So.

Once upon a time.

I and my friend had gone to some place and as we’re walking through the lush green roads.

She asked me a thing.

She said ” What’s our relationship like“?

I asked ” What do you mean”?

Now, what she said I got bit worried about her thinking.

She asked “what’s our status.

Are we friends or are we in love?

It’s just I don’t want to be confused.”

Now,

I was bit confused.

What type of question is that.

And, I found it to a very shallow thing to answer.

But, still I said.

Whatever we have done in the past, whatever talks we had and how much time we must have spent talking and moving around.

Will all these change.

If you add just a name to our relationship.

Will all the learnings.

Will all the deep conversations.

Will all these things change if I just change the status or name of our relationship.

Will saying that we’re friends or saying we’re in love.

Will things change?

And whatever between you and me is there will it also change.

Why are you adding a “tag” to something which is beyond our comprehension.

Then after all these philosophical words from my side.

She became silent.

I know I’ve made my point.

But, it was not about making a point or proving I’m wise.

It was just removing her from the shackles of doubt.

Where she can accept things as they are and let her flow through it, but not getting entangled in it.

Well then she accepted it.

And, I was happy.

The reason I wrote this post.

Will just adding a name to some relationship.

Will it change everything.

And.

Do we really mean those things.

And,

Does just adding a name to something makes it that.

There have been so many marriages and so many divorces with so many breakups and patch ups.

Even my relationship with this girl ended and today we’re totally away from each other.

Did you notice the unpredictability.

Did these change whatever thing you had with your partner.

So, tomorrow if I change my name to Alexander or To some god.

Will it change me completely?

Will it change my whole personality and whatever the characteristics I have since my birth.

Similarly adding names or tags to relationships only complicates them.

Whether you say you’re best friends, married or say you are girlfriend/boyfriend.

These things may sound good in ears.

But, they also depict out ignorance.

The reason because relationships or marriages are made in the deepest corners of universe.

No one knows what will happen next.

So, it’s better to accept whatever form of relationship we are in today without covering it with sheets of our ignorance.

And then you’ll find yourself more free.

Image credits : Google Images.

My Visionary Leader.

These days we have elections everywhere.

USA had Senate and Congress Mid-terms then we had Brazil elections and in 2019 we’ve Indian Elections.

But,

We always get mesmerised with the fact that there are elections but we don’t know who’s gonna be our leader.

Have we ever had a vision about this?

Like.

A vision.

Something different.

That who should really win the elections.

Who should be my leader.

The man or woman who can really lead.

Not just lead elections. Okay.

Well, I have a dream.

That one day there will be a leader in our country who will bring India the greatest glory it has ever had.

Maybe a small paragraph describing him or her would certainly justify my vision.

I dream of a leader.

Who knows what’s right and what’s wrong even no body around him knows it.

A leader who could speak empathetically to the people even when there are no cameras.

I dream of leader.

Who doesn’t fear elections but fear the anguish in the eyes of the poorest of the poor and wicked smile in richest of the rich.

I see a leader who could talk intellectually with the intelligenstia and empathetically with the common man.

I also dream of a leader who would stop his motorcade when an ambulance passes by just because he knows that someone’s life is more important than his meeting.

There’s a leader who could handle variety of subjects from agriculture, internal security, diplomacy, economics and make everyone praise his vision for his country.

I see a leader who could travel standing in a public bus and sitting in his private jet without any difference.

I also see in him the charm and gentleman behavior that make world believe in love even more.

I could also see a leader who doesn’t hesitate to take right decisions if majority of the world feels its wrong.

A leader who does right with right people and right with wrong people as well.

I could see a leader who not only visits poor households when elections are near but also when he wants to really be with them.

Yes. I see that there’s a leader who would treat his country’s women like he treats his wife and mother.

A leader who knows about his country and people more than he knows about his insecurities.

I also dream of a leader who not only knows what ethics are but also follows it and set an example for his younger brother and sisters living in his country.

I also dream of a leader whose speeches hardly criticize his opposition but instead gives a hope and a dream to the common man of better India.

And.

I also dream of a leader who believes that he’s an idea not a man, because he knows that a man can fail, caught, lost and killed but hundred years later an idea can still change the world.

So.

Is that the leader you want?

If you do.

Then whereever he is and at whatever situation he is.

Always support him.

P.S

All women and LGBTQ people out there my posts are gender-free so you can change the gender as per your choice.

Image credits : Google Images.

Will you still?

Yesterday I watched Vanilla Sky.

It’s a really a mind boggling movie.

Psychological. Tragic. Love story. Dreams. Insecurity.

It’s really hard to predict the storyline at any point of time.

But, I liked the idea of the movie.

And I have combined that idea with my idea, so will probably show that through a poem here.

And.

I will have this poem Gender-free.

Means anyone can realte to it.

I have lost my beautiful face, and its just scars and scars now.

The face which whole world would cling upon now its just synonymous to ugliness.

But, I ask you the question, My love.

Will you still love me?

Will you still kiss that face.

I have lost my arm’s and my leg bone.

I can’t walk properly, I limp every moment I walk.

The man whose walk made whole world jealous of the confidence, is now another, disabled guy.

But I ask you a question, my love.

Will you help me to walk, from bathroom to parks, from hospital to bed.

Will you?

Now, I have lost my intellect, I can’t think properly, I am not intelligent.

The moment when the world went awestruck with my ideas, now I can’t even remain sane.

World calls me Delusional.

But, my love, I’m still sane for you.

I can’t say any beautiful compliments neither I can Crack any joke.

But, I can still say, that I love you.

Even after all this

Will you still love me? ”

So, don’t you all think.

This is the limit and test of the purest love.

If someone stays with you even if all this has happened with you and he/, she still remains with you then that’s everything you’ve got.

There’s nothing in this world beautiful than that man or woman who stays with you even if after all this.

Then I can say, you’ve got True love.

Now, The other idea I want to talk about is.

The double face of the world.

Like, when you’re rich, handsome/beautiful and successful, then everyone wants to talk to you, be with you and maybe do everything with you.

But, suddenly when dices of destiny change and you become the person that’s stated in the poem, then everyone wants to avoid you, backbitch about you and laugh at you.

Don’t you think?

That it’s stupid to even trust such people.

And.

Are they really worth your time and energy.

What i want to say is that.

Follow what you love.

And, choose somebody who is pure from heart, the person who knows what true love is.

And, What about the world where dubious and malicious people live.

I would say.

If the world is that dubious.

If they change that way.

Then just forget this world.

And.

Even if you achieve anything in the world where such malicious people live.

Then certainly, that achievement is worth nothing.

P.S

This is my 100th post.

Do congratulate me. (😅😂)

Image credits:Vanilla Sky.

Why America needs India?

The West and The East.

Difference in everything.

But, as the mystics say Partnerships are made in heaven.

So, Do I.

Well. I could have said that India needs America.

But, No.

Mind you, India is not going to provide any material or militarily help.

Nor its going to be a place for so called American bases.

But,

What India can give to America is.

It’s Ancient Knowledge.

It’s philosophy and psychology.

But, Why only America?

Well. America is leading the world in everything.

Whatever America does, world follows it.

Today its Denim Jackets, Iphone, Organic Food etc etc.

Tomorrow its something else.

But, yes like Whatever the big brother does the little brothers follow it.

Isn’t it?

But, I’m sorry to say.

The present situation is very different.

Today, the youth in America is indulging in so called liberalism.

Drugs. Alcohol. Gaming Addictions. Sexual Activities. Junk Food.

And.

What is really happening?

You have individuals who are not really cared for, everyone is busy in desiring something.

And.

That’s quite evident with the amount of psychological issues the people there have.

Shootings in School. Homicides. Early Divorces. Teen age pregnancies. Drug Addictions.

These all are psychological issues, nothing more.

And.

What’s the cause of these issues?

Too much affection for Materialistic ideas and Individualistic Mindset.

Really, what I observed in even TV series and News and all. (maybe I know that they don’t depict reality, but still)

So, okay. Yeah.

We know what’s the problem with America.

But, How can India help?

Well. I said that Ancient Knowledge and Indian Philosophy will help.

Still, How?

Yoga. Vedanta. Upanishads.

Does it wring a bell?

Yes.

But, I’m not talking about Yogic Poses.

Those postures .

I know that those seem to be quite glamorous.

Well. Yes. They are.

But, do most of you know, what yoga means?

I may get low statistics here.

Just because. The Americans really didn’t learned what yoga is.

They just got fascinated with Physical Yoga.

But, this physical yoga is just 20% of actual yoga.

Rest is mental.

So, if you’re doing just physical and leaving the mental behind.

Then you can be called a person who’s good in doing postures.

But, you won’t certainly be called a Yogi.

Yoga in actual means Union.

The Union of mind,Body, spirit.

It teaches about, how to handle your desires. Your thoughts. Your emotions.

To sum it up.

In actual it deals with your life and how can you be happy.

And.

How you can be at peace?

Well. My this post is specifically for Americans.

So, Many years of every materialistic indulgence.

Are you at peace?

No.

That’s why you turned up to India.

That’s why you come to India just to learn physical yoga.

But, that’s physical.

Why don’t you come for mental and physical yoga both ?

Okay. You don’t want to come.

But, internet.

You can search online.

Read. Read. And just think. Think why I’m not happy. Why I’m not content.

Raise Questions.

And.

Yes. You’ll get all your answers in Indian philosophy.

Just type Vedanta or Bhagvad Gita or Yoga (your favourite one) on internet.

Okay. But,

Why I’m so concerned about America?

You know.

I’m concerned about the World.

If tomorrow America follows something really good.

If she becomes a storehouse of knowledge, Wisdom and Peace.

Then.

The World will follow it.

The Whole World will buy books, read about scriptures and become wise.

There will be so much good that can be done.

Just.

If one country follows it.

Today so many countries hate America because of its foreign policy, Trade policy and World Domination.

Middle East hates you.

Many Countries in Asia hates you.

Russia hates you. (that’s old one)

Europe has started to hate you (subconsciously :P)

You’re still living in Cold War era.

But, has it done anything good?

Countries have got destroyed in war.

Millions in hunger.

That’s not the way to lead the world.

Isn’t it?

And.

The reason for all this is just because of American Citizens not doing what’s right.

If they had protested.

If they had selected leaders which have right policy and who are wise and caring.

Then these events would have never occurred.

And.

Reason for this is your Ignorance.

For what the whole world suffers.

So, yes.

India is ready to give all her ancient knowledge and Wisdom.

So that you all become wise and take better decisions.

But,

Are you willing to embrace it ?

Image credits : Google Images.

Psychology-India’s Messiah & Saviour.

I have been living in this country for 24 years.

The world has changed, so has my country.

Economics. Politics. Technology.

Everything is so dynamically changing that it’s hard to keep a track of it.

But,

As we all know, India’s growth has been steady.

Still, issues like population explosion, social exploitation, discrimination and gender insensitivity have been an issue.

We all hear about all the schemes that government has launched from Swacch Bharat to Digital India to Make in India.

But, at the ground level.

They don’t seem to be far-reaching and to the point.

There must be a solution?

Isn’t it.

Well, there is.

But, do we know what’s the problem in real.

What you call a person who looks for happiness in external objects.

To be honest, Bhagavad Gita calls him to be a fool.

So, how about a person who looks for problems in the society, but forgets that he is the problem.

India is blessed with everything.

Britishers did a lot of damage.

But, all isn’t that bad, After all.

We have a good location in the world having a peninsula, having few strategic islands (Andaman & Nicobar) and also a favourable climate.

Most important we have a great demographic dividend.

And, also a stable economy.

Even having all this.

Some issues certainly plague our country.

Why does that happen?

Why even having so sound and good policies we are not able to help ourselves?

Is the government missing something?

Well.

Yes.

If today we look at our schemes, policies and institutions.

There’s one thing in common and that’s people.

We have people in them.

Without people policies, institution or schemes are powerless.

And.

What drives people?

Emotions, Thoughts, Habits, Desires.

So, if you’re making a policy don’t you think you should add how people would react or how people would use it.

As we all know that, in policies or institutional setup, Finances, administration, location everything is dealt with precision.

But, what about people who are going to use them.

Will they use it or not?

Will their habits change or not?

Will that policy changes people so that they apply positive habits.

A few days back.

I was watching a movie and in beginning, there was an advertisement of government it talked about giving some money to poor women who are pregnant

So, I want to ask you a question?

Will you find poor women in a multiplex?

And that too watching an English Movie.

That’s gross misuse of public money.

Awareness should be created at places where it’s needed.

That’s just a miniscule part.

Water issues. Corruption. Floods. Pollution.

These are major issues.

And.

These issues can’t be implemented properly.

Until and Unless they don’t people.

If you don’t know how you’re people are going to react.

If you don’t know what are their stereotypes.

If you don’t know their habits.

Then. I’m really sorry those policies will look good only on paper.

I will take a few examples.

I generally indulge in random conversations when I’m travelling.

And, in Delhi.

You can talk to people from different backgrounds and cultures with different professions.

Once I sat in a cycle rickshaw.

So I asked the rickshaw puller, asked him why he’s taking a wrong way on road?

He said that the next cut to the road is five kilometres ahead.

I nodded.

Thinking who’s fault is that.

So, these days Open Mobility is a real issue that’s going on.

Government is building a lot of Skywalks.

Recently a made near Supreme Court, it’s Beautifully lit up and world class.

With modern facilities like Escalators and Elevators.

But,

Today I saw a BBC video on it.

And.

They asked one person why he’s crossing the road when there’s a skywalk.

He said that skywalk is designed in a way that it takes him too much Time.

Im not saying that it’s not made with proper guidelines or thought.

But, why you don’t you hear people’s opinion, yourself?

 

Moreover, the issue of open defecation is also an issue.

So, one day.

One of my friends, why he was urinating in an open field.

I asked why don’t you control a Toilet comes by.

He said that there’s no urinal in 5km radius and he can’t control till that time.

I said.

Well, do then. (Maybe he’s right)

There are people who want to use the toilets.

But, where are the toilets?

I won’t blame the present government for this because they’re making a lot of them and it’s in their agenda to remove this menace.

But, I would certainly blame them for.

Having too many schemes.

If you see newspapers.

There are so many schemes that are launched that I guarantee you would need a 300-page notebook to note all of them.

Innovation is yes good.

But, indiscriminate innovation leads to nothing.

The approach of Improving older schemes and innovating subparts of it is the right thing.

Just because no ones is perfect.

No scheme would be perfect.

If constant improvement of those policies is done coupled with innovation then that’s good.

Analogy :

Human Being.

So if you fail one day in an exam, will it mean that you will change the course you are enrolled in?

Like you failed in a Commerce subject, so will you take Science subject the next day.

Absolutely No.

You would improve.

And, analyze your mistakes and shortcomings, moreover also innovate in areas where innovation is necessary.

Now here we come to stereotypes and materialistic life.

I always said Indian philosophy and psychology it has its best in the world.

All knowledge is there you don’t have to search anywhere.

But, the opposite is happening.

We’re trying to emulate the Western Countries.

And.

Western countries are trying to emulate our psychology.

You can see yourself.

Yoga. Vedanta.

All these are so loved by them.

But instead of learning from the mistakes that the Western countries regarding Materialistic ideas our country is doing the same.

Why don’t we learn from their mistakes?

Instead, we want to commit a mistake and then learn.

It will waste so much of time. (Decades)

This was regarding materialism.

Then there’s stereotypes and attitudes.

Breaking laws.

Jumping Traffic light.

Rapes and Molestation.

Importance to Survival rather than happiness.

Well, there are too many.

Law Breaking and Traffic light jumping are most common.

Yes, we do have police officials and a system of fines.

But, what if no one’s watching.

You’ll certainly see people breaking rules.

Because they care for rules only if there are police officials.

Why don’t we instil that law-abiding behaviour as a result of a person’s thinking rather than his fear?

How do you do that?

Well, education and awareness.

Teaching them from the beginning.

Just see how the Japanese are doing it.

And.

Just implement.

Change their behaviour by making them appreciate the fact that they did right by not jumping red light or following rules.

Make them understand why rules are there and how useful they are.

People are not dumb.

They’ll understand.

But, there should be a will from the government on such areas of concern.

Then there’s come too much importance to Survival rather than happiness.

People are too concerned about earning a bread rather than happiness.

Yes. I too agree with that.

Survival is necessary.

Food, Housing is necessary.

But, Im not talking about basic necessities.

I’m talking about Ego Survival.

People don’t leave jobs they hate just because they believe that they won’t be able to do well in things they love.

Parents are overly attached to their children and indeed influence each and every decision for their children.

And.

That’s where all problem starts.

Careers. Marriages.

Everything gets spoilt.

Just because they don’t know what they’re the child is good at.

They just want to see what the society is doing and what will get job and spouse for their child as soon as possible.

I think DNA that of Early Man’s survival instinct is still embedded in us till now.

Yes.

Here.

Government and Policymakers can do their bit.

Role models.

If you make aware of the Indian athletes, actors or people who did well in their respective fields.

Certainly, their attitudes will change.

In, India engineering and medical are seen as the only courses which can derive economic benefits.

But, they miss something.

They don’t know that each and every talent itself can be an economically prosperous vocation.

Just see, Cristiano Ronaldo. Roger Federer.

How much they earn from just playing.

Then there are Sponsors and Advertisements and what not.

A vision is necessary.

Maybe I can’t dictate anything to anyone.

But, yes Government of India should start taking Psychology seriously.

Even setting up a psychology department and integrating with other ministries and then advising them on how to make schemes and policies.

This would be a great step.

But,. Still.

Who am I?

That’s a decision they have to think and take.

If they have to Make India what she really was in ancient times and also save her from present challenges.

Then Psychology would be her Messiah and saviour at the same time.

Why tantric intimacy is better?

To be frankly speaking our understanding and curiosity should not have any barriers.

If it’s anything.

There has always been barriers to free and real conversations regarding tabooed things.

And.

One of them is Sexual intimacy.

Well.

I always had a question in my mind.

Moreover I used to believe in something.

And I could never find answers.

But, when I did.

I found that, I used to believe in something correct.

Today. I would certainly share my knowledge with you about something we all would indulge in but we hardly have guts to talk.

But certainly I can’t censor myself, my beliefs for what the world thinks its taboo to talk on.

In India, for sure having a billion population and still it’s a taboo to talk.

Let’s see what can i offer.

So.

Here’s the doubt I always had.

I always believed that a man and woman who marries have a lot of universal magic.

I’m not talking about those break up, patch up relationships, I’m also not talking about relationships based on feeling of lack.

I will scratch your back and you will scratch mine.

This is a typical phrase which depicts selfish love.

Whereas.

Other love is I love you because I love you.

If you don’t love me still I will love you.

Then that’s unconditional.

So, yes the doubt.

I always thought that a man and woman can align on various platforms.

Be it intellectual, be it serving the society, be it making their children great, and even on physical platform.

And.

Yes. Physical intimacy is one of those platforms that a man and woman can align.

But, is having sex the only intimacy?

Few years back I used to read Vedanta, there it was written that man and woman have a very potent energy that’s ojas.

I may narrate What Shiva(Indian God) has to say on it.

I [Shiva] am the semen, Sakti [the Goddess] is the generative fluid; when they are [perfectly] combined in the body [through this practice], then the body of the Yogi becomes divine [immortal].

Ejaculation of semen [orgasm] brings death, preserving it within brings life. Therefore, one should make sure to retain the semen within.

One is born and dies through semen; in this there is no doubt. Knowing this, the Yogi must always preserve his semen.

When the precious jewel of semen is mastered, anything on earth can be mastered. Through the grace of its preservation, one becomes as great as me [Shiva].

The use of semen determines the happiness or pain of all beings living in the world, who are deluded [by desire] and are subject to death and decay.

This is the ultimate Yoga . Even though immersed in the world of the senses, one can reach perfection through its practice.

Without a doubt, through this practice the Yogi will acquire all kinds of powers, while at the same time enjoying the ecstasies of the world.

This Yoga can be practiced along with much enjoyment; therefore the Yogi should practice it.

[…]

I [Shiva] have revealed this Yoga because of love for my devotees. It should be guarded well [kept pure] with the greatest care, and not be given to everybody.

It is the most secret of all secrets that ever were or shall be [because misuse of it can create a demon]; therefore let the prudent Yogi guard it carefully [from becoming degenerated.

This is what Shiva has to say.

Then there’s Vedanta Texts and Swami Vivekanada has to say.
Now this Ojas is stored up in the brain, and the more Ojas is in a man’s head, the more powerful he is, the more intellectual, the more spiritually strong. One man may speak beautiful language and beautiful thoughts, but they, do not impress people; another man speaks neither beautiful language nor beautiful thoughts, yet his words charm. Every movement of his is powerful. That is the power of Ojas.
Now in every man there is more or less of this Ojas stored up. All the forces that are working in the body in their highest become Ojas. You must remember that it is only a question of transformation. The same force which is working outside as electricity or magnetism will become changed into inner force; the same forces that are working as muscular energy will be changed into Ojas. The Yogis say that that part of the human energy which is expressed as sex energy, in sexual thought, when checked and controlled, easily becomes changed into Ojas, and as the Muladhara guides these, the Yogi pays particular attention to that centre. He tries to take up all his sexual energy and convert it into Ojas. It is only the chaste man or woman who can make the Ojas rise and store it in the brain; that is why chastity has always been considered the highest virtue. A man feels that if he is unchaste, spirituality goes away, he loses mental vigour and moral stamina. That is why in all the religious orders in the world which have produced spiritual giants you will always find absolute chastity insisted upon. There must be perfect chastity in thought, word, and deed; without it the practice of Raja-Yoga is dangerous, and may lead to insanity. If people practice Raja-Yoga and at the same time lead an impure life, how can they expect to become Yogis?

Now, after reading all this you’re aware what really your sexual energy can do.

But, after reading all this.

I was in doubts.

A lot of doubts.

I thought having children is the great service you can do for the world and to love them would be the best gift.

And.

Other doubt was that.

Can’t a man and woman align physically without dissipation of this vital energy?

Just because, I consider marriage to be a powerful institution.

Well.

Then and there.

I got my answers.

Tantric Intimacy was the answer.

Tantra is one of the most important systems of Indian philosophy and spiritual practice

Well.

In movies, Internet or anything even in the world.

They have a very degrading way of showing this intimacy.

What i mean its hardly any love.

What they show is that.

Just the result.

The result of releasing your seminal fluid in others body.

I want to ask.

Where’s the pleasure?

Is touching each other’s nerves and releasing seminal fluid tantamount to love.

Is love that.

I could never believe in such idea.

Or.

Is love the pure bliss and purity.

The tranquility and calmness you derive when being with your partner.

Certainly it’s upto you to decide.

Well. Moving in tantra.

The idea of sexual intimacy is not that of focusing on the result.

In ordinary sex, people think that just releasing your fluid is sex and the pleasure you derive in releasing the fluid is the best possible happiness they can have.

But, you know what can happen when you lose your fluid.

You lose your energy you stored all these months.

So.

How about aligning physically and not releasing the energy.

Isn’t it that a great thing.

Well. That’s the only love.

Just because lust needs an outlet to get removed from the body, it needs something.

But, love there’s no Need of outlet or anything else.

And.

Tantra shows you that.

In tantra man and woman can align for hours and it’s the real love because to love is a process not a result.

If you want nerve tickling, pleasure from releasing your fluids then tantra is not for you.

Tantra itself requires lot of chastity and self control.

A man or woman who knows what love is will understand the way of tantra.

Here I would Quote one author’s views regarding tantra and yoga.

She’s Sharon Ganon.

How then can sex be moved from something exploitative which perceives the physical as separate from the spiritual? It begins by recognizing another being as more than their genitals and more than existing to service us. It begins by changing the question, “what can they do for me?” into “what can I do for them-how can I enhance their life-what can I do to make them feel better, happier, more cherished?” It begins by putting a face on the other and asking “Who are you, who am I, who are we? What are we doing and why?” Those are powerful questions.

What we see out there in the world is a projection of what is inside us. Yoga means connecting; sex means separation. Yoga means to see yourself in another, to see so deeply that otherness disappears, and when otherness disappears, sex dissolves and oneness remains, and that is Love.

Well.

These are powerful ideas.

That can really change your life.

Yes, you should get married and have kids and yes you can align physically but by not wasting your ojas.

But, Afterall.

Mostly it depends upon your nature.

The type of love you have, and.

And when you decide.

Then that will be your future.

Either you’ll rise or you’ll fall.

Depending on the path you take.

But, just observe what I’m saying and reason this thing in your own life.

Moreover don’t fall in the trap of the good. (sinister motives behind generous actions), there will be people who will want to access your pockets so that they can Sell their products for the sake of teaching you what tantra is all about.

But, I would say searching on internet is better.

P.S

Challenge your beliefs.

Challenge the taboos the world has set.

There’s alot of knowledge in our Indian philosophy, make sure you use them for your own personal happiness.

And.

Tantra is not any moral or ethical code, it believes in happiness and vigor.

Think for yourself.

Do align physically but let it be out of love and peace not of lust and stress.

Foreign Policy- The New Imperialism.

You know about Russia and America.

Right.

These two countries seems to be pole apart if you see on a flat world map but are very near if you see on a globe.

Thanks to the round shape.

And.

Eventually there’s has been a lot of history between them.

Cold War. Afghan Invasion. Now, it’s Syria and ISIS.

Recently America issued sanctions on Russian firms and businessmen.

And.

They issued sanctions on countries dealing with Russia.

Yes, The CATSAA.

The reasoning the White House spokesperson gave regarding it was that, America doesn’t want to hurt its strategic allies but to disorganize Russia’s trade.

I paused for a minute.

I said “What”.

That’s a very stupid thing.

Why I thought like that is because recently India bought the S-400 system from Russia.

And.

Americans are now contemplating to issue sanctions in accordance with CATSAA on India which is one of its most important ally in South East Asia.

Means.

America is trying to disorganize Russia’s trade by compromising its relationship with India.

Means.

Eventually America is going to be hurt.

I really don’t understand.

Why?

And

Who makes such Acts Like CATSAA.

If Russia is your enemy it doesn’t mean It has to be enemy of India.

If Iran is your enemy it doesn’t mean It has to be enemy of India.

But.

When you try to force your disappointments or your conflicts globally.

Then that’s new form of imperialism.

You can’t force anyone to do anything just because you want it.

It’s highly selfish to think that way.

That’s not things work.

And.

Foreign Policy never works that way.

It’s highly diplomatic.

And.

Involves lot of Compromises.

Here it’s Sanctions on Russia and Iran and their trade partners.

Now comes.

The Middle East.

Syria. Iraq. Yemen. Afghanistan.

Countries have been destroyed because of war.

If someone is really good at sending its troops anywhere in world for the motive to set up Proxy Government then I would surely give America a medal.

The American government says that it believes in democracy and Human Rights.

So.

What about Saudi Arabia then?

But.

Here they know that Saudis have money and oil.

And they buy lot of American Products.

Maybe that’s why the values of democracy become less important.

Well, one thing about Saudi Arabia can be appreciated that’s its intolerance regarding Terrorism.

But, Its policy in Yemen and Human rights in its own country are issues which need to be dealt seriously and urgently.

I was happy when Donald Trump announced that he would punish Saudi Arabia if they have had a hand in Khashoggi’s killing.

But, I don’t know his intentions really.

Well.

To be frankly speaking, I have no grudges against America as a country, I really like Hollywood movie,and have interacted with lot of American citizens , who really are great.

But, what I really don’t like is The American Government’s foreign policy.

Which is other form of Imperialism.

Now.

I will take another country.

It’s China.

A communist country which believes in capitalism.

Certainly that’s the most funny thing I would ever hear.

But, that’s true.

Communism can’t survive in today’s world.

Venezuela. Cuba.

These are few examples.

These countries really lost of money because of their socialist principles.

The problem with Socialist countries is that they forget that Men and Women need basic necessities to live like money, food and home.

And.

Money can be generated by innovating your economy.

So having thousand of licneses and no trade or foreign investment makes you poor economically and if your country is poor then there’s hunger, poverty, riots etc etc.

So.

That’s why China had to change its course.

Today its one of the most important country in the world because of its trade and manufacturing sector.

One belt road.

Financing new ports.

Building industries in Africa.

China is really expanding,because it needs market for its products.

But,at what cost?

What China is doing these days that its making huge investments and finances in other countries generally poor African countries.

And.

If those countries aren’t able to repay the loans which China gave, then yes.

They will buy your ports and land and use for their own purpose.

Maybe anything they want to do.

This is Really great way to capture someone’s land.

Moreover issues Like community displacement, enviornment pollution human rights are also issues which China really don’t care when it’s in other country.

It has one motive and that’s for having global presence and increase its assets.

Well.

I talked about how foreign policy is becoming a tool for new age imperialism.

During the 18 & 19 century it was European empires who used to deal in imperialism, now its global economic powers

I don’t know.

Maybe.

Someday, if India becomes a global power.

Will we do the same?

The country who itself was a colony.

I think that time would tell.

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