Yeah. Not a good topic. I know that it sounds bit depressing.
But please bear with it.
It will help.
I promise this will be a small blog post.
You know today I had some desire to do something like go for a walk.
So when I was walking.
I found lot many not following traffic rules, many looking at girls in a wrong way, then some talking in foul language, then there were many who were spitting on roads and throwing garbage.
Like for me, these are things which I hate.
Means if someone does these I hate them
Then I looked inside myself and noticed the feelings and thoughts, they were quite bad or you can say impure.
Yes. I think this is a complex situation.
Like indeed the above-stated activities are bad but how come hatred isn’t helping us.
Means if something is wrong and if we hate it then how come we are getting affected by it and feeling miserable.
Shouldn’t we feel good about it that we are hating wrong things?
Yes or no. I want answer guys.
Few more examples.
I have seen many girls getting creepy messages from men whose libido has gone into their minds.
Then I have seen girls using boys as their slaves for recharge, assignments and spending money.
Then I have seen many parents forcing their children to do things to which don’t wanna do.
So yeah it’s very easy to hate and its very easy to get attached.
Now. The analysis part.
Okay. A few years back. If you would have met me. I could have been a lot different.
I was not a good boy.
I was a typical bad boy. (not that bad :P)
But. Situations and knowledge changed me.
There were things which I believed in. They changed me.
So what does this has to do with it?
If only knowledge and training are things which changed me. Then these two things are also same for everybody.
Then why I’m hating those people.
They are just ignorant. They are living a life in the sensed form. It’s okay everyone isn’t perfect.
I’m not supporting these type of people.
But what I’m saying is that.
Today we might be ignorant. Tomorrow we can be enlightened.
Same is with them.
Now the scientific part
See when we start to hate something or someone.
We create trouble in our heads.
I will give you an example.
There was one group discussion in which everyone was given a topic to speak on a bit of extempore like.
Well, there was a girl she was given a topic – Internet – advantages, and disadvantages.
So she said that these days boys see lots of wrong stuff on phone because of the internet and they are bad. This was the first point in disadvantages.
I was like.
How is this related to the topic?
Means she was a girl. Then how come she’s indulging in boy’s life.
I at that particular moment analyzed that she had some baggage in her mind regarding Porn and boys.
Maybe she hated that.
Yes, its okay she doesn’t like it. Indeed a good thing. But deep down it was hurting her, I sensed it from her voice.
So this happens when you hate something.
Now another example.
When I was in the first year.
I had a friend and her best friend was a girl.
Means I was also her friend but another girl was a better one.
But. One day as we both were traveling in the metro.
She asked, ” What do you think of that girl”?
I said” she’s a good person ”
OMG. Then after this, she went on speaking so many bad things about her. That I felt like” How this can happen “.
I was like so much of hatred or jealousy.
Even we talked on the phone. She would say very bad things about the girl.
But in reality, the other girl wasn’t like that. She was a nice person whenever I talked to her.
Then I understood that demon of hatred or jealousy has got into her.
See. I will explain this.
Whenever we hate something or try to avoid something we start thinking about it. This thinking leads to emotional build up due to our ego and desires.
Then because of this thinking and emotional build up. We take wrong decisions regarding those things.
It’s just because of overthinking and negativity we create ourselves a passage to evil.
If there’s is some muddy patch on a road.
Will you jump on it and say that this is dirty?
Will you jump over it?
Same is with hatred. If you don’t like something just don’t think about it and get yourself dirty(by thinking), just jump over it (ignore it and do what you believe or you love to do)
Do Read my post on Thinking and attachment.
It’s because of attachment and hatred are two sides of the same coin.
Now, what to do.
Complex situation to be in again
Now. If someone throws garbage in the metro.
Tell them politely that it’s not the place to do so.
If someone sends you creepy message then don’t hate that boy just block him.
It’s because if you start to hate him, indeed this memory will go into every other relationship. Then you will doubt those men also who are not like that.
Then don’t hate that girl who is using you. Just break up. Move on. One day she may improve or maybe not. But what matters is that you did the right thing.
Then don’t hate every politician or police officer there are many who are doing a great job.
Then don’t hate your habits. Just change them. Don’t think much about them. Just change to better ones.
Most importantly don’t hate anyone. It’s because you will start to be a great trauma or struggle.
So at last. I would like to quote a very beautiful dialogue from wonder woman (she’s my favorite superhero :P)movie (blushing :P)
Yeah where was I. ( still blushing :P)
” I used to want to save the world. To end the war and bring peace to mankind. But then, I glimpsed the darkness that lives within their minds. I learned that inside every one of them, there will always be both. The choice each must make for themselves – something no hero will ever defeat. I’ve touched the darkness that lives in between the light. Seen the worst of this world, and the best. Seen the terrible things men do to each other in the name of hatred, and the lengths they’ll go to for love. Now I know. Only love can save this world. So I stay. I fight, and I give… for the world I know can be. This is my mission, now. For ever.”
At the end.
Only love can drive hatred out.
Not hatred to hatred.