But. Not good to postpone this post.
I will be dealing with something which is so good that words can’t express them.
I should write.
Even though i can’t express it.
But still. I should write it.
Purity. Purity of heart (to be particular)
I never heard this phrase but i have felt it.
That feeling which is very subtle and peaceful.
It always accompanies with a sense of bliss not temporary pleasures.
Maybe examples will do away your’s doubt regarding my post.
One fine day, I met a girl. (friend)
She’s still my friend.
Our friendship was one of a kind.
We never talked too much.
Or maybe we called once in months or maybe meet each other once or thrice in a year.
We had some purity.
We talked like we had nothing to hide.
Maybe nothing to show off.
There was just conversations. Conversation regarding career, social service and our own problems.
And to be frankly speaking.
We both proposed each other.
And both rejected each other one at a time.
She proposed first and then i rejected. And then i proposed her, maybe lot number of times and she rejected me.
We both knew we were proposing each other out of loneliness.
Maybe due to pain in our hearts. That we needed each other to complete.
That loneliness was common, I think these days most of relationships are based on this.
So that we don’t lose our sense of being.
But. Even we rejected each other.
There was sense of respect for each other.
Maybe we went over our personal ego.
She helped me when I was depressed.
Because I had no one.
Even after rejecting each other or saying things which we shouldn’t in ego.
Still there was some purity in our hearts.
That purity was the last strand which United us.
Now after years.
We do talk. We share things regarding problems in our country.
And. Guys i know you are enjoying this or maybe thinking this is some love story.
I just want you not to judge.
Because it’s not a love story.
And nor we are lovers.
It’s a tale of friendship only.
What’s the reason for telling you this?
There is a trend.
Some girl rejecting a guy’s call or message so that she develops importance in the guy’s mind.
Or some guy trying to create jealousy in girl’s mind by roaming with some other girl.
There are couples making rules that we can’t call once in week or not calling too much.
So that the other doesn’t consider as desperate or maybe amateur.
I don’t think relationships are business.
Above things are business and they are Not love and can never be love.
These are impurities.
Then there is other type of love also.
On first site you might think of some couples that they are passionate lovers.
There passion surpasses their parents, societal values.
They love each other like magnets.
Means they will attract each other only.
They won’t get attracted to any other thing be it helping others, or helping their parents or making their society better.
This is their type of love.
And I never believed in this.
This is something extremely selfish.
When two right persons are attracted, I think everyone loves them be it the society, elders, kids or even friends.
And I had such a friend.
He was in relationship with a girl.
But he and his girlfriend.
Both were extremely courteous.
There was less of clinginess and more of love.
The girl lived in a PG(paid guest room) and we were three friends, all boys.
Even her landlord was angry.
She welcomed us even she came after work.
She got us cold drinks.
Showed me her cat and dog.
Then we played carrom till 3am.
My friend he didn’t had a single element of jealousy.
It’s just because their love was pure and they respected each other.
Most importantly they respected us even we were a thorn in their private lives.
That day i felt happy for both of them.
Couples eliminaing everything from parents to friends to social values.
Just that they don’t lose each other.
You call this love?
Now. Leaving the love section behind.
Once in chandini chowk.
I was very tired. I wanted to take a rickshaw.
And the old man said that its 50 rupees.
I told 50 is too much.
So we decided on 40.
As I was going. I noticed that the distance is too much for 40 rupees.
I felt embarrassed at myself.
That I bargained with an old man for 10 rupees even he demanded the right amount.
When I reached my place.
I gave him 50 rupees and told him to keep it.
He smiled at me and said thank you.
I knew 10 rupees meant much for him.
And he was genuine, means he genuinely demanded a right fare.
I was happy.
I was not happy that I gave extra money.
But for the fact i did something right to the right person.
Robbing a old man who has nothing.
Just a rickshaw to earn.
And how many Times we bargain with these people for 5 rupees or 10 rupees. (I’m not saying that we give any amount, but we should give what’s genuine or rates that are prevalent in the market).
We wear nike shoes.
Iphones in our hand and pay thousands of rupees in high end restaurant.
But still bargain for 5 rupees or 10 ruppes even if the person is demanding right amount.
Last few months back.
I met my friend, the one I mentioned in the first example.
So i thought maybe to give her some knowledge.
As she’s in education field.
So i gave her all the knowledge i had regarding my idea of education, education to make children’s character better.
So at the end.
I felt happy.
For not that I showed off my knowledge.
But for the fact that someday she would be a teacher and my knowledge will help her to teach children better.
And when children will be better i know my country will be better.
This is something which bought a feeling that in real I’m making my life meaningful.
Meaningful to the world.
Exactly it was purity.
These days I have seen people talking about sex, career and love in such a way that I feel there’s some impurity.
They think talking about sex will make them open minded and cool, but in real there’s impurity.
And when you read their comments or talk with them you will understand there’s some pervertness.
Because purity doesn’t need anything or anyone to show off.
Not does it wants anything in return.
And in actual this is the purity which I believe in.
Purity of thought.
Is the most important thing.
And the only way you can find this.
Is when you look inside yourself deeply.
So start looking.
Thanks to our father of nation Mahatma Gandhi for the quote. (image)