I know it is quite uncomfortable for you all to read or maybe its Taboo for some.
But, here I need to address this issue whatever the case be.
Here i am.
Addressing a very reserved topic. But still something which everyone is associated with it.
I will be discussing about this energy of what is in boys/men.
So. Guys this is for us to look into.
Maybe i will share some experiences also. (I’m feeling embarrassed :P)
In our country its a Taboo to talk about sex and its effects.
The beautiful thing is that we have born out of this act only.
Is anyone here born out of some chemical reaction?
Sexual energy is the most powerful energy anyone can have.
Why its powerful?
It’s because it’s the only thing which can give life.
It’s the only one energy which can unite the masculine and feminine souls into one.
Yet. We have degraded this thing into mere sensory pleasure and ego gratification.
Are we responsible for this?
Somewhat. But these days society is also feeding us the degraded version of this energy.
Those item songs, those illogical and pervert advertisements just to sell their movies and products respectively.
Moreover the egoic Mindset.
The feeding part.
I will go in detail.
And. It will certainly reveal some insights. (examples will be there)
With the advent of Porn culture.
We have certainly degraded us below animals. Yes even animals have some morality now.
Now. I will tell you how this whole thing works.
When you see some degraded images or movies where women are objectified so constantly remain engrossed in it.
We think that they have been made to give us pleasure only. (which is a stupid thing)
What happens when we have sexual energy.
See whenever sexual energy arise we guys feel the urge to dissipate it.
Isn’t it guys?
So. Then that energy gets mixed with polluted things like pornography.
Consider an example.
What happens when you drop mud in pure water.
The water becomes dirty and undrinkable.
Same is with sexual energy which is pure, when you drop things like body objectification and ego.
The same sexual energy will become impure and it will hurt us very dearly.
See guys these things I’m telling you because it’s something everyone experiences and even i have undergone this disease which was feeded by our society and our ego.
So, How come ego plays a role here?
Well ego is the main villain.
Ego thinks of this energy to conquer one’s body.
It thinks that we are able to conquer someone’s body.
What really happens once we conquer it?
We make the person something as a commodity. Like use and throw.
It’s like deriving pleasure for 5-6 seconds and then throw off that thing.
All these extra martial affairs, one night stands or friends with benefits type of things or only by products of lust and ego nothing else.
This was something related to ethics.
Now coming to personal growth.
You know that our male sexual hormone or semen is made up of the same fluid as our spinal cord and even brain is made of.
All those effects which you face after releasing your energy through masturbration.
Are just the consequences of depleted fluid which is the main source of energy.
What you are wasting.
You are wasting your life’s most impressive energy.
All creativity and charisma is because of this energy.
From swami vivekanada to nikolas tesla.
They knew this energy and its worth.
So they saved it.
But, here im not telling you to keep saving this energy. (you have to use it someday :P)
I know we have to get married and need to have kids and there’s no other way of having your own kids other than sex.
How to use this energy for love and collective good.
Well. I will tell you what I think of.
See. We all know that we have this energy.
And this attraction or energy can come to us any point of time.
Don’t fear this.
Yes. Don’t fear.
This is normal. This attraction or desire to procerate is normal.
But. We need to educate this desire.
Its just suppression is similar to attachment.
What you need to do.
Be aware. Yes be aware of this energy.
But. Change its course.
Whenever you feel this desire. Just don’t feed it with stupid things like Porn or ego.
Just feed it with what you believe in.
If you like sports or studying or music. Just channel it into this sector.
When actually you have to use it?
What i believe is.
That before marriage we shouldn’t indulge in this act.
I know the whole society tells the same thing.
But i will tell you the reason.
See. Marriages are made in heaven.
You really can’t decide that who your life partner will be.
It’s just you really can’t think of it.
So if you indulge in this thing and then somehow get to know that you don’t love that person or you aren’t meant to be together.
It means that you lost your virginity for the wrong person and wasted it at the very wrong time.
Moreover i have also heard people saying that physical intimacy is required for love.
I don’t think so.
What about old people.
Who have lost their desire.
Are they still bounded by sex.
Irrespective of it.
Unconditional love is very patient.
It is completely devoid of carnal pleasures.
The sexual energy can be channeled into a very beautiful thing.
So when you marry.
You and your partner can decide to have children and raise them like heroes.
So if you and your partner’s intentions are of ego gratification and sensory pleasures. Then you can assume that your children will be byproducts of lust.
But when you channel this energy for higher things like country, selflessness and truth then children will be products of unconditional love. (something I believe)
Moreover you can also channel this energy for unconditional love to your partner for the person she is.
So. Here i leave you to decide.
That do you want to use this energy for turning all those girls who helped you, who supported you in tough times as objects.
You wanna love them.
And later partner with your wife to bring about a lot of collective good in the society and love her unconditionally for the person she is.
It’s totally upto you which way you want to go